So here we have someone who I will call 'the Shibuya Gaijin sex seeker'. Me and my friend, D-chan were hanging outside of shibuya station getting ready to go home. Along came this English speaking Japanese
My friend D-chan knew something was up, she kept whispering to me "he looks dirty lets get out of here". Of course I didn't want to be rude and just leave so suddenly (I am not the type of person to just do those things).
We really didn't want to hang out with him so instead I said we would hang out another day (lie) and maybe we would come back later (lie). We said this to make our escape seem less blunt and obvious, if he was a crazy person or something maybe we thought he would get angry if we directly said we didn't want to hang out with him. This person also wasn't very good at understanding the atmosphere (kuuki yomenai hito), as you say in Japanese.
We left and went somewhere else and sat down playing on our phones for a while before we went home. We didn't see him again.
However, suddenly a few days later I got a email from someone on my phone. I thought it was very strange because I don't know how he got my email. Thinking about it he must have seen it at some point where I opened my phone. My email is really short and easy to remember, so he must have seen it when we were talking to him, or he must have followed us and seen it when we were sitting down!!
He didn't seem like a creep at the time, but rather just someone who wanted to keep up his English skills (which I am not interested in hanging out with). I kept ignoring him and telling him I was busy, hoping he would go away. I didn't want to tell him directly that I wasn't interested because something my personality can't do. Instead I hoped he would understand by my words that I wasn't interested (which he never understood).
About a month later, he was still insisting on meeting me, so one evening I finally said fine. Maybe I thought I shouldn't judge him so much, maybe he is a nice person. Its not like I had anything better to do that evening and after all if he ends up being a creep, at least I get a free meal. :/
I told him IF he wanted to hang out with me, he only has 3 hours till my ex husband comes home. He had to come ALL the way to my end of town (2 hour train away from him). I thought if I gave him these cercumstances, he wouldn't want to bother.
But he agreed. And this is how the evening went,
"Are you thirsty, Shall we get something to drink??"
Yes, I nodded. I wondered where he would take me for a drink. Maybe Starbucks since it is the closest drink store.
.....oh whats that...We enter McDonald's... Oh ok. I guess I can get a Cola...
"Oh....McDonald's water...oh you shouldn't have"...(should have just told me to drink out of a tap in the bathroom while you wait for me outside!)
Next he lead me to a rock where we could sit and talk. We started talking about how I got to Japan and other chit chat.
We were just talking about traveling, when suddenly he asked to see my hand. This was his
"Sorry. I am not interested in displaying public affection.
I was shocked that he was so quick to advance on me, in public too!. I mean trying to hold someones hand you just met and someone who was married. Our previous conversations had no reason for him to believe that I was interested in anything with him.
He began to ask me questions about himself 'do I think he is cool/handsome etc'. I kept giving him the cold shoulder, telling him It didn't matter and that I was only interested in making friends. I kept making it very obvious that I wasn't interested in speaking about these kinds of things, then changing the subject to something else.
The next part of the situation, I can't even believe this happened.
Is this guy crazy or something? Who ever mentioned sex? We went from him, trying to hold me hand, to me rejecting that and telling him I wasn't interested at all. Then he tried to sell me the opportunity to sleep with him. I told him I was married and not interested at all, expressing full on confusion as to why the even would mention such things. The last thing he said was something like this.
"I know you are probably just used to Japanese guys flopping around on top of you for 1 min till they are done, But I always make sure I take time to satisfy the girl before I satisfy myself...."
*Mira stairs* (omg is this idiot actually saying this?)
He then proceeds to tell me that all Japanese girls meet him and want to sleep him (yeah, I highly doubt that). If there are actual girls that sleep with this crazy freak, I am sure they are hookers.
I had no idea what to say to him. I had no idea if I should leave now. It was too entertaining at this point. The whole time I was thinking I can't wait to tell my friends about this weirdo!. I couldn't even believe someone could be so aggressive and upfront about things even after being rejected so many times. I couldn't stop laughing in my head.
Since he was getting nowhere he decided to try to impress me by taking me to karaoke
"If we go inside, I am still not going to kiss you".
He insisted that he wasn't interested in kissing me if I just wanted to be friends and he just wanted to hear me sing. He said he wont bother to hit on me anymore and he begged me for just one song. I thought what the hell, might as well.
When we got inside I showed no interest in him but only interest in the songs and singing. It only took him another 5 mins of the night to realise he was not getting some action (Slow or what?). After he realised I wasn't going to give him any loving, he stopped talking, refused to sing and eventually he CANCELED the karaoke (so now we only have 30 mins to sing instead of hour he originally requested). What a baby. I told him before and during that I wasn't interested, yet he kept trying.
As soon as he did that I told him I have to go home. He insisted on following me back to my station which I rejected. I made it very obvious that I wasn't interested in him. I was acting angry and cold at him. When it was time for him to part and get on his train he even attempted to kiss me goodbye but I ducked away, then he tryed to hug me (eww). As soon as he left I pulled out my phone and called up D-chan telling her all about what just happened.
He tried to contact me a few times after but I ignored so he gave up (finally).